Read Proverbs 18
I’m a pretty stubborn individual. When talking to someone, it’s my natural instinct to determine during the course of the conversation if I am smarter than them. I have a great deal of intellectual pride, something that has come around to bite me in the past. Have you ever been in a conversation where you thought you had the upper hand, only to have that facade come crashing down? I have. One particular instance was a few years ago during a conversation with my boss. Instead of using my intelligence as an asset to help build him and his dream up, I decided to prove how smart I was by talking instead of listening. I had, without realizing it, decided that being seen as intelligent was more important than actually being intelligent. I was acting like a fool and was completely unaware of it.
During the course of our conversation he called me out on this. He didn’t use the exact words “intellectual pride”, but he cut me down to size. He put me back in my place and let me know just how foolish I was being. I left that hard conversation feeling angry and hurt and broken, but I can honestly say that it changed me.
Pride first, then the crash,
but humility is precursor to honor.
Answering before listening
is both stupid and rude.
Though I no longer work for him, I still talk with that boss on occasion and our communication has completely changed. In fact, my communication style in general is very different than it was even a few years ago. I’ve come to realize that when people come into a situation full of pride I immediately don’t want to listen to them. I tend to tune prideful people out. But when someone humbly comes to me, even when they know more or are superior to me, then I will happily work and spend time with them. I am thankful for the humble people in my life who provide a beautiful example of how I should live each day. While I am by no means perfect, I still have to fight my pride daily, I now understand that humility is preferable to pride any day of the week.
If you are like me and struggle with that pesky problem of pride, I encourage you to humble yourself today. Do it now before someone else does it for you. Being humbled is not a fun experience, trust me. Operating from a place of humility is a much better way to live. Pride is restricting and isolating, humility is freeing. Humility is an open door for God to work in and through us. Let’s be humble people who are ready to be used by God to heal and encourage others!