Read Proverbs 29
Have you ever done something because of the will and opinion of others? Of course we have, this is not an uncommon experience. Now, have you ever resisted doing something that someone else wanted you to do? We’ve all done this too, whether out of sheer rebellion or out of a standing up for what’s right. I remember a few years ago when my boss’s boss wanted me to do something that was unethical. My boss protected me, but her boss was less than thrilled that I had done the right thing to the detriment of the company. In my mind it was a no brainer, his opinion of me wasn’t going to affect my decision making. His opinion didn’t matter enough for me to compromise my morals. But it does make me ask myself: under what circumstances would I bend the truth or break the rules? For whom would I be willing to do that?
The fear of human opinion disables;
trusting in God protects you from that.
Have you ever been in a meeting with a person who just wouldn’t get on board? Those are the people who constantly ask questions and come up with “what if’s” that hold up the process and make everyone late for lunch. Have you experienced this before? Well, I am that person. I’m the squeaky wheel. I am the dissenting opinion. I’m the one who will see pitfalls and will work hard to stop them. When someone first expresses an idea, I immediately begin running scenarios in my head, determining when and how the idea will fail. I do this, not out of malicious intent, but because I want to make every idea the best that it can. If I want an idea to tank, I’ll silently watch it happen; if I want your idea to succeed, I’ll question it.
My questions and my concerns aren’t always well received. Often times people perceive my reluctance to jump on board as negativity or insubordination, not realizing the spirit in which my concerns are given. There was a while at work when I was scared to give my opinion because I was the one “wait” in a room full of yes’s. While everyone else would be nodding their heads in agreement, I would be recommending caution and further planning, advice that was consistently overlooked. I would point out other perspectives and things no one else in the room had seen, yet the plan continued on as proposed. So I stopped giving my opinion. I stopped using my gift of seeing different perspectives. I stopped because I didn’t want to lose my place at the table.
Since then, I’ve come to realize that I don’t want to change who I am to appease someone else. I don’t want to stay silent when I know I should speak up. I don’t want someone else’s opinion to dictate who I am. I am learning to trust God and hold his opinion far above the voices of others, including my own! It sounds simple, but it’s not always so easy to put into practice.
Trust God in the midst of your storm.
Trust God when everything is crumbling around you.
Trust God when you don’t know who to turn to.
Trust God in the good times.
Trust God when you’re on the mountaintop.
Trust God when you are full of fear.
Trust God always.