What Prayer IS – Connecting

How do you connect with others? How do you grow relationships? It’s not a trick question, I promise. You connect and build relationships with others by spending time with them, communicating with them, and exposing yourself to them. The same goes with God. How do you build a relationship with someone if you never interact with them? 

Prayer is talking to God, it’s approaching his Throne Room and dialoguing with the Creator – what an immense privilege! {tweet this}

More than just connecting us with God, I firmly believe in the bonding power of prayer. When you pray with people, when you war and worship with them, you have a way of growing closer with them. By connecting with others on a spiritual level you’re automatically creating a space for a deeper bond. 

A few years ago I met a girl who has since become a dear friend of mine, but it didn’t start out that way. I honestly didn’t like her at first. But over the course of a year we spent hours and hours praying together. There were times we wept together in my apartment because the Lord was breaking things in both of our lives and moments when we yelled for joy because of the freedom God brought to us. Now, no matter if we’re 10 or 10,000 miles away we are always there for each other to pray and intercede as needed. That’s a bond that can’t be broken.

Single friends, this is precisely why I don’t think it’s always wise for people who are dating to pray together. Please hear me on this: both parties should be praying and intentionally seeking the Lord individually. Praying together can be good, but there is something powerful that happens spiritually when people pray together. If that person isn’t the guy or girl for you and you’ve been praying with them and doing Bible studies with them daily for months, it could be even difficult for you to end it if that’s what God’s telling you to do. Because prayer is such a powerful bonding agent, I encourage you to use it wisely.

How often do you pray with your friends? Family? Community? Accountability partners? Spouse? Children? I encourage you to reach out to that same trusted group of friends from yesterday and pray with them again today.

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  1. If you are dating, it should be with the intention of marrying, that is Biblically correct. If you are considering marrying this person I think it is important to pray with them and for them. I am interested if your perspective on praying together has any biblical basis (I’m trying to think of where you got this from in the Bible and have found none) or if this is based on your personal opinion or personal experiences?

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    • Thank you so much for reading and commenting!

      The Bible doesn’t explicitly discuss dating so this topic has to be addressed using wisdom. I believe that prayer with a person you’re dating or thinking of dating should be exercised with caution. If a girl and a guy are praying together every day and then the Lord prompts them to break up, the tie between them can be stronger because of their time in prayer together, which may lead to further heartbreak and make it that much harder to obey the Lord’s promptings.

      I believe this is an area that requires wisdom and might look different for different people. If a couple has made a true commitment to each other and are seeking marriage and are intentionally pursuing the Lord both together and in their private time that’s awesome! If a couple is just starting to date but aren’t serious and are praying together alone every day but aren’t devoting as much time to their own personal prayer time, I would definitely encourage them to evaluate their actions and seek wisdom.

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