In the book, Scary Close, Donald Miller recounts how his view of himself changed over time because someone else believed in him. He had gone through a breakup and had been berating himself, believing the lie that he wasn’t good at relationships. Then, one day, Bob Goff was chatting with him on the phone and Bob told him “Don, you’re good at relationships.” Donald didn’t believe it at the time, but that phrase sparked something in him. It was something that Bob kept reminding him of as he began to make healthy changes in his life.
Recently, I’ve been thinking about that story a lot because I have, like Don, believed that I’m bad at relationships. And, because I have believed this lie, I have developed the habit of keeping people at a distance.
The thing I’m reminded of in Scary Close is that even if we’re bad at relationships, we can learn to be good at them. God created us for community and relationships, so I believe, if we’re willing to put forth the effort and try, he’ll help us out… a lot. What an amazing God we serve!
Do you tend to isolate from others?
How can you take a step toward a healthy relationship with another human being today?
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Donald Miller is one of my favorite non-fiction authors. I appreciate the way he sees things, the way he breaks down concepts, and the companies and products he’s created by combining his various passions into one. He’s written a number of books that I enjoy including Blue Like Jazz and A Million Miles in a Thousand Years, but the book that sticks with me more than the others is Scary Close.
I pride myself on not being scared of too many things, but one thing I am truly terrified of is being known. Relationships scare the living crap out of me and I fear letting others in.
When I read Don’s description of himself at the beginning of the book, I found many similarities. It was nice to know that I’m not alone but, at the same time, it was a spotlight on the dysfunction in my own…
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