Mourning Time

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I was born in 1990, which makes me a millennial. My generation gets a lot of bad press, especially these days, but I think there’s also a lot of good that can come from us. We’re no longer the college kids who are out there partying and living on social media; now we’re the generation managing growing debt and obligations and escaping on social media. There are many people younger than us who are looking to us and many people older than us looking back at us.

Any time something happens in the government, economy, or the world, I think about what my generation is going to be left to deal with. We inherit what the previous generation leaves to us, whether we like it or not. So, the other day, as I was processing through what it might look like to rebuild the economy and our society after the coronavirus crisis passes, I realized just how much my generation has lived through.

1999: Columbine shooting
2001: 9/11 terrorist attack
2008: The Great Recession
2020: COVID-19

Each of these major events has completely changed the way we live and these are just a few of the larger nation-wide events that we have experienced. My guess is that the majority of us have been through things like rejection, abuse, and neglect on a personal level and experienced our own personal tragedies. There has been pain inflicted at a local level that a region might experience but is never known at a national level.

My point is that each of these events in our lives, whether personal or global, can and do leave a mark on us. Sometimes events like this help make us wiser: I’m now washing my hands more thoroughly than I was before. But they can also make us fearful: If I’m not careful, I can look at every other human being as a threat. Similar mindset shifts happen after every traumatic or tragic event.

I wonder how many of us take the time to process through the traumas that we have experienced.

This is a season where we don’t have all of the answers and I don’t think that we’re supposed to. I do believe this is an opportunity for immense healing, freedom, breakthrough, and restoration, but I also believe this is a time for mourning.

In the Bible, the prophets would lament and I think that’s probably something that would do us some good today. What would it look like if we took the time to sit and mourn with the Lord? Mourn our own sinfulness, our own actions, what has been taken from us, and what we’ve lost. What if we mourned for our neighbors, our family members, and our communities? Loss and grief are spreading like wildfire through this nation, what if we took the time to feel all of those emotions and trust that God will meet us there?

I do believe that there’s hope and that God is going to use this situation for his glory and our good, but I don’t think he’s rushing us there. God does turn our sadness into dancing, but first we have to mourn. Let’s accept his invitation to mourn with him today.

Do you take the time to process to grieve losses with the Lord?

What does taking the time to mourn practically look like?

To go Deeper: Read Responding to our Natural Alert Systems: Sadness, What Grieves You?


  1. You know, I think that I have taken the time to mourn only a few times when a crisis hits home for me. Even at age 13 when Daddy died, I did not truly mourn until I was in my 30s, 40s, and later. Yes, it took decades to really mourn that huge loss for me. I never forget but I believe the mourning for Daddy is mostly behind me. But I am still mourning the loss of my husband almost 2 years ago. The loss of John F. Kennedy as a junior in high school…the many killings of school children of all ages, the murders, profoundly useless murders…and the teaching of K-1 in inner city Washington, D.C. for three years, hearing those babies awful stories of their lives at home…Oh, so much in these 72 years of mine. But, this pandemic has given me a different way to see such huge tragedies: because I am a senior and mostly self-quarantined, I have time to look at changes and actually begin to process them while actually in the midst of the loss, the change. It feels different. It is awful too. But I am mourning now…everyday. Thank you for such a powerful post for me this day, this time. Caring through Christ, ~ linda

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  2. Your post is touching and thought provoking. I haven’t taken the time to mourn over the COVID crises. There is too much to process right now. When I let myself think of the losses, the emotions are overwhelming. In time.

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    1. I think you’re right… there’s so much to mourn right now and so many emotions to sort through. I think that we will likely be cycling through moments of mourning over the coming months and even years. I really do hope that we have the courage to sit with the Lord in that mourning space.

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  3. Amen, I feel like alot of times this is the heart behind those struggling with depression. It’s because they are mourning something and don’t realize it. Unfortunately our era and the next is being told we need to self-medicate instead of seek God and take the often long and difficult walk of self-healing.

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    1. I recently read that (of course, I don’t remember which book it was in) depression is mourning something we don’t realize, which made me pause and think. Healing is quite a process, but I’m thankful that he is with us every step of the way!

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  4. Reblogged this on Work in Progress and commented:

    We could put many labels on this particular year, but I would be a proponent for “mournful” or “grief-filled” to be in the running. Everywhere we look, there’s something that can and should be mourned. I think taking some time to mourn as we enter into the final stretch of the year would likely do us some good. 

    What have you mourned this year?

    How has grieving affected your life? How has it affected the church?


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